Makeup is not a concept of vanity. Sure, vanity can be expressed by wearing makeup – by wanting to hide your perceived flaws. But makeup is purely a form of expression of your inner self. It’s a mating call- a way of displaying to the desired sex and others that you are sexually available. It’s just the way humans- females, specifically- portray part of your identity.
Makeup is considered a form of mating call because it is meant to draw attention to yourself. It accentuates the features that you want people to look at. Lipstick draws the eyes to the oh-so erogenous mouth, blush simulates sexual arousal, and eye liner and mascara focus on the eyes to draw in a connection with another person. We turn to makeup to highlight these regions when we are ready to have someone to notice them and understand the sexual connotations. When we are satisfied in our current relationship or are uninterested in pursuing a relationship, we keep these features minimalized. Bright, gaudy colours and excessive use of makeup portrays desperation or easiness, bold, plain colours tend to draw intense passion or sexual prowess, and subtle, natural-looking makeup seeks more sensitive, long-term connections.
When done correctly, makeup can enhance your natural form and structure, while expressing your interest in others. This is why I love practicing with makeup. I have so many different kinds because I’m looking for the perfect look- the perfect combination to draw in a man’s interest. On another level, I’m just trying to get used to using it, so the times I actually wear the whole she-bang it looks effortless and attractive.
There’s nothing more attractive than a powerful woman, and makeup can be a way of expressing that power. If you wear something that you think looks good on you, then you feel good. That’s quite a powerful force. It’s flattering when a confident, radiant woman is interested in a man(or a woman). No, really. It’s power because it we are exhibiting a form of control of our inner and outer selves . We are expressing a desire to be noticed, to be unique. The more creative you are with your display, the more likely you are to feel power. After all, it is a skill just like anything else. It’s almost like art form. Actually, it is an art form and it represents inner power. I have this power and you do, too.
I just now realized-after delving into my makeup stash to begin my ritual- what I was subconsciously doing. I’m ready to announce that I have become sexually interested again, even though I had had no idea. It makes sense, though. Considering that my relationship is severely lacking in the sex department, I would logically try to find fulfillment somewhere else. Expressing my concerns and desires does nothing. He just gets irritated or dismissive. I subconsciously was trying to find that fulfillment in another person. Not that I recognize this, I guess I’m pretty okay with it. I’m not finding my needs satisfied where I am now and my mind is all “well, maybe you can find that somewhere else.” I shouldn’t have to hide my needs and desires; I’ve had enough of that in my life. I have cravings just like any other person and I shouldn’t have to ignore them for the sake of someone who refuses to satisfy them. Whatever happens will happen, but I’m ready to make my move.